Hey again, I haven’t posted in a few days. I really gotta start posting daily. I can usually conjure up an idea per day, and with that as my base, I should be able to post daily. It would be the best way for this blog to become more successful.
I feel I’ve written a lot about optimism, motivation, inspiration, etc, and all seem to be related. Ugh. Stupid positive posts.
Success is so broad, so hard to define or put into a box. It is measured by so many different things. It also further complicates things when you realize that everyone sees success in different places; success for a Mom of 3 is going to be on an entirely separate wavelength than success for a 15 year old guy. This makes giving advice on this topic a trying task, but of course, being somewhat conceded, I believe I can do it here.
I’m not the most qualified person to be giving you a therapeutic post on how to succeed, but like everyone, I have found it. There are patterns I personally notice, strategies I mentally jot down, and pathways that seem to provide the smoothest road toward winning. So let’s jump in. Disclaimer: I’m not responsible if you stumble and fail miserably. But, you won’t-with this one weird trick! What if I was serious. What if I was really like one of those phony,advertising salespeople that try and steal your money. That would blow. Good thing: I’m not. On to the life advice.
Success is variable, but if there was one reliable definition of it in my eyes, it would be the measurement of making a step forward. Does not matter how far that step is. Does not matter which direction that step is going. Comparison is the anti-christ of success. What I mean, is that success can ultimately be minimized by adding a little comparison. So, in all, success is moving forward toward something- and, along the way, avoiding the least bit of temptation to compare. So:
Don’t compare. A subtle, yet prevalent tip- don’t have your goals go head to head with the next guy’s. It may be fun, it may be rewarding, but it also may be diminishing and destructive. For example, if you were to pin your rate of improvement in running a 30 meter sprint against someone like Usain Bolt, you’d feel like Pluto did when it was told it wasn’t a planet anymore. You’d feel like a failure, no matter how good you were becoming, because in all likelihood, there is someone better. Like Usain. In essence, if your measure of success is by how you fair in comparison to anyone else, you’re doing it wrong. Hate to break it to you, but yep. You are the vessel of your own improvement, nobody else- if you’re gonna compare your progress, compare it to 2016 you. Or 2015 you. Or ____ you. You are your own worst enemy. That saying doesn’t fit the context of this paragraph very well, but it’s truth lies in the fact that the only one you’re up against is yourself.
Consistency. I’d say this is one of the most overlooked characteristics of a winner. You see the bodybuilder, hear him give his speech on his competition victory, hear him mention how his hard work and consistency pays off, you note that, and then you get all worked up, motivated and start a new regimen- only to subconsciously ignore the word consistency later on. Everyone recognizes that word-consistency- everyone knows what it means. It’s keeping a level of work or progress over time. For me personally, though, I find myself letting it get swept under, beneath other feelings and ideas. Day 52 of learning guitar is gonna be a lot less exciting than day 1, I recognize, and it could potentially be a day that I forget to practice. The same level of enthusiasm when you start a new thing is not going to always be there. It always is higher when you begin than when you’re in the middle portion. This is where consistency comes in. Don’t forget to be consistent. Even working out for 10 minutes a day over a year is much better than 10 hours for one week only. It clearly is- and one of the most underrated things when considering how to get better is the boring, bland idea of just continually doing it. I struggle mightily with this one; see “The Final 10 Percent”.
Mental Re-Wiring. Sounds weird. It isn’t something that you hear often, so I consider it my own personal, unique addition to the topic of success. What I mean by this is training yourself to appreciate your progress more- learning to think you are actually going somewhere. It always helps when an NBA basketball team is playing in their hometown stadium. And, the reason is because they have the support of the crowd. Fans are chanting player’s names, yelling phrases that pump up the team, and giving positive reinforcement when the home team scores (fancy way of saying they clap when a shot goes in). So, consider this, if you cheer yourself on (mentally, that is- you don’t wanna get accused of being a head case), then you will likely experience that “home-crowd effect”. Telling yourself that you are on your way to becoming the next Clayton Kershaw when you are out in the hundred degree heat throwing countless baseballs at a brick wall will certainly help you continue to do it. Not everyone does this, though, and it takes some serious brain work to get in the habit of positive thinking. You have to start consciously doing it, telling yourself in your head that you need to support your own path. Trust me, when you’re alone on that rainy Sunday afternoon and just wanna sleep all day, it’s gonna be important to have your mind on your side.
Well, there it is. 3 tips that honestly will make a difference if implemented. Again, these things are not unknown, rare, never-been-written about ideas. They are things you may have thought about/read/heard of for years. A lot of people probably left this post after they read the phrase “Don’t compare”- yeah, yeah, yeah- I’ve heard that one a million and seven times. This douchebag has nothing hot to offer. Well, for one, I like to think I’m not a douchebag, and secondly, that may be one of the most common thought processes that cause these bits of advice to be ignored.
Thanks for reading
Luca DeJesu, 2:30 PM